Thursday, July 1, 2010

5 reasons not to elope

  1. Including family and friends in your ceremony is a significant emotional, social and cultural component of marriage. It might seem like the commitment is simply happening between you and your soon-to-be spouse, but the reality is that marriage encourages the support of the community. Marriage creates a bond between families and loved ones, and it requires a commitment from them to support you in your relationship.
  2. If you elope, you will likely end up throwing a wedding or large event anyway. Family and friends are probably going to want to celebrate with you; because of this, some couples end up having a second marriage while others throw a large party. You can avoid hosting multiple events by having a wedding in the first place.
  3. Eloping can distance you from those who feel hurt by your choice not to include them in such a significant event. Close family members and friends will likely feel slighted, disappointed and maybe even offended if you choose to elope. Rather than spend time repairing these relationships, why not include your loved ones?
  4. Planning a wedding is an important experience. It's a chance to make decisions together and gives you practice in working together towards a common goal. For some couples, it is the first time they've really had to make compromises regarding finances, priorities or preferences.
  5. Contrary to popular belief, it isn't all about you, but it is still your big day. Your wedding should reflect you as individuals and as a couple, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't consider others, too-- you absolutely should. Find a way to make your wedding work for everyone, and you'll have more to celebrate.

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