Thursday, July 15, 2010

Choosing the groomsmen

If your groom-to-be is having trouble deciding who he wants by his side on your big day or he just doesn't want to deal with the task, here are some tips that can help:

When it comes to the best man, most grooms choose the man he is closest to and someone he can depend on no matter what-- and that's his best bet. Many grooms end up choosing a brother, and some even choose their fathers. But if he feels the wedding just wouldn't be right without a particular best man, think about having two. This is a great idea, especially if it's difficult for him to choose between two brothers or two best friends.

For the groomsmen, his brothers are a great place to begin. And if you, the bride, have brothers, it's smart for him to include them as well. Next, he'll probably choose between his closest friends; this selection might come down to which guys he's known longest. One other suggestion (from Emily Post): Flip a coin with all the guys present so they can actually see how he came to his decision.
What do groomsmen typically do?

* Arrive at the rehearsal on time.
* Show up at the wedding prior to other guests.
* Wear the requested attire.
* Escort guests to their seats (if necesssary).
* They may escort a bridesmaid down the aisle before and after the ceremony.
* Dance with a bridesmaid at the reception.
* Have some fun and stay relatively sober.

A couple of other things:
  • If your groom has a friend that may not have the finances to participate as a groomsman, he can ask the friend to be an usher. This is also a good way reduce the wedding party numbers if necessary. You can also ask other friends to be readers or to light candles.
  • There is no such thing as a "right" number of attendants to have. You don't even have to have an equal number of groomsmen and bridesmaids.
Need more help? Check out our source: Selecting Groomsmen 101.

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