Do you really need a receiving line for your reception? Is the bride's family supposed to pay for everything? You might have these questions (and even more) when it comes to your big day. In an article on WeddingChannel.com, Peggy Post, etiquette expert and internationally known public speaker, gives you common wedding etiquette myths and the truth:
Myth: The couple has a year to send thank-you notes to guests.
Fact: Gift-givers want to be sure that their gifts got to you safely and that you appreciate them. This means thank-you notes are expected and should be sent ASAP-- at least within three months of receiving each gift.
Another tip: Write a few notes every day instead of writing them all at once. Also, sending notes before the wedding date is an excellent way to keep up with them.
Myth: The bride's family is required to pay for most of the wedding and reception.
Fact: If the bride's family wants to, they can pay for all or most of the wedding/reception, but it's definitely not required. In fact, it's becoming necessary for many couples to combine their financial resources for the big day. Lots of couples are starting to pay for the wedding themselves or split the expenses with their parents.
Another tip: Be sure to budget wisely. You can have a gorgeous and meaningful wedding on a small budget. And it's so important for you and your family to discuss the wedding plans and costs early on and honestly. If possible, you want to stay away from overspending and miscommunication.
Myth: A receiving line is mandatory for a wedding reception, no matter the size.
Fact: You're not required to have one, but you should personally greet all guests and thank them for coming.
Another tip: Even though it's not mandatory, a receiving line is the best way to be sure all your
guests are greeted; this is especially true at large weddings. Post's suggestion: Have a receiving line for weddings with more than 75-80 guests. By doing this, you and the hosts are able to most efficiently see all guests. If you think it might take too long, try to keep the line going at a steady pace. All you need is a 'Hello,' an introduction (if needed) and a 'Thanks for coming.'
Myth: You should always register for some traditional household items.
Fact: You should register for things that make sense for you as a couple. In today's wedding registries, you can get everything from pots and pans to camping equipment to cash for a down payment on a house. At the same time, guests aren't required to choose gifts from your registry. Gift-givers can select whatever they think you'll like; and they should never be told what to give you.
Another tip: You should register for gifts in a broad price range so your guests will have several options. Also, even if you say you only want cash gifts, it's a good idea to register for a few physical items. Some people just don't like to give cash (even if it's totally okay to do so).
For myths and etiquette tips, check out our source: Peggy Post on the Biggest Wedding Etiquette Myths Ever.