Choosing who will be in your wedding party is one the most important decisions you'll have to make. And it can be one of the most difficult. Hopefully these tips will help you and your attendants have the best and happiest time:
Select friends who understand you. Kate Chynoweth, author of "The Bridesmaid Guide: Etiquette, Parties and Being Fabulous," says think about the roles you want your bridesmaids to play including supportive listener and party planner. Think about those friends who you talk to regularly, who live near you and whom you've known to be reliable. And don't hesitate to ask one of your best guy friends.
More doesn't necessarily mean merrier. Chynoweth suggests having no more than six bridesmaids unless you plan to invite 300+ guests. Trim your list of potential 'maids before you begin inviting people; do this so you don't lose track or end up with a bigger group than you anticipated. And although it's appropriate to include your future sisters-in-law, it's up to you to invite other in-laws and additional family members. Also, don't feel required to "repay" friends who asked you to participate in their weddings if the relationship has since died down.
Remember that timing is everything. According to wedding planner and designer Michelle Rago, you should spend two to four weeks without asking anyone to be a bridesmaid. "It's lovely to be engaged and focused on this huge life change." Try to select them within the first three to five months (they should at least have six months' notice), and ask them around the same time so no one feels last.
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